How to (Kindly) Move toward Divorce When a Spouse is Reluctant

Posted by Sharon Pastore, Main Line Family Law Center
June 10, 2016 at 7:00 AM

Divorce often arises from persistent disagreement and fundamental differences in perspective between spouses.  Usually one spouse arrives at the conclusion to divorce, strongly in favor while the other experiences some reluctance.  In many states, the divorce process itself can put additional stress on the situation. 

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5 Money Pitfalls of a Do-It-Yourself-Divorce

Posted by Cris Pastore, Esq.
May 6, 2016 at 6:30 AM

 

Everything these days is becoming do-it-yourself, and the divorce process is no exception. When a well-intentioned divorcing couple calls our office or comes to a consultation, I am often amazed at how well-informed they already are about the divorce process. With so much information available online, the right couple for a collaborative, uncontested out-of-court divorce can really have a leg up if they wish to finalize their own divorce without any professional guidance or advice. However, a little learning can be a dangerous thing for some couples. You can become so overfocused on the general information you read, that you can miss the forest for the trees.

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How Discernment Counseling Helps Couples on the Brink of Divorce

Posted by Linda Hershman
April 7, 2016 at 1:54 PM

Sarah* discovered her husband Jon's emotional affair with a coworker in typical digital age fashion: via a text message that popped up on his phone, which he had left open on his night stand. This was the second time in their 14 year marriage that Jon had strayed. He had a brief affair six years ago, shortly after the birth of their second child. The couple worked long and hard in therapy to rebuild the relationship. Now Jon begged her for one more chance, but Sarah was done…until she thought about her two young children and wondered whether she could summon the energy to try once more.

If you are reading this article, chances are your marriage is

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[Checklist] Forms Needed to File for Divorce in PA

Posted by Sharon Pastore, Main Line Family Law Center
March 21, 2016 at 3:22 PM


Spouses with no marital property to divide, alimony or immediate custody issues to resolve, can file what is called a simple divorce. The following information and series of forms to file applies to counties in PA, including Montgomery County.  Filing for divorce in Montgomery County tends to be simpler than filing elsewhere, and one does not need to be a county resident in order to file for divorce in this county.  

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Topics: divorce in PA, Healthy Legal Options

How to Be Your Best Self Through Divorce

Posted by Sharon Pastore
March 3, 2016 at 6:00 AM

Divorce can bring out the worst in anyone. It is a hugely stressful time, there is a lot at stake, and most people feel terribly vulnerable. All of this gives rise to a perfect storm of anger, resentment, and mistrust and can easily drag even the most caring and good-natured person to behave badly.

 

In a recent Preparing for Divorce support call, empowerment coach Adina Laver, and wellness educator, Dr. Christine E. Kiesinger, explored how to be your best self during divorce.  I loved listening to her story.

 

Over the past 18 months, Christine has been consciously navigating her path as she and her husband uncoupled. Three months in, she realized she needed to consider how she conducted herself and what version of herself she wanted showing up throughout this process, and that even the most aware person can find themselves behaving in shocking ways.  She wasn't happy with herself and began to shift.  

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3 Biggest Mistakes When Filing for Divorce in PA

Posted by Sharon Pastore, Main Line Family Law Center
February 3, 2016 at 12:54 PM

 

The Do-It-Yourself Divorce in PA

Everything these days is becoming more do-it-yourself - even divorce.  But how simple is it really to file your own paperwork? Let's take a look at how to file for divorce in PA.  Here are 3 biggest mistakes most people make when filing as a "pro se" in PA. This assumes that you have a simple divorce - no marital property to divide and no issues to work out around custody or other children's issues.

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Topics: divorce in PA, Healthy Legal Options

Why the Golden Rule Works to Your Advantage in Divorce

Posted by Ruth Feinblum, LCSW
January 12, 2016 at 6:30 AM

There are a lot of terms for having a low-conflict divorce - a good divorce, conscious uncoupling or a healthy divorce. People going through a divorce understand why a healthy divorce is better for children and finances. But, here's a question you probably haven't considered..Could a healthy divorce also be better for your former spouse? Why should you care? If you, as adults are going to work to let go of the anger during the divorce process, how is that helpful to your own emotional well-being and growth?

 

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Topics: Your Wellbeing, Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned

How to Beat the Divorced Holiday Blues

Posted by Dawn E. Warden
December 4, 2015 at 12:47 PM

As someone who has been through two divorces—the second one very much unwanted—I understand all too well the emotional wave brought on by the holiday season. One minute you're up and grateful, the next, you're down, lonely and full of anxiety. Your kid time has been hijacked by your ex, your friends are running off to a great vacation or hunkering down for family time amid fires, movies and popcorn and blankets. You feel like something—someone—is missing. Because well, he or she, is. 

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