How Discernment Counseling Helps Couples on the Brink of Divorce

Posted by Linda Hershman
April 7, 2016 at 1:54 PM

Sarah* discovered her husband Jon's emotional affair with a coworker in typical digital age fashion: via a text message that popped up on his phone, which he had left open on his night stand. This was the second time in their 14 year marriage that Jon had strayed. He had a brief affair six years ago, shortly after the birth of their second child. The couple worked long and hard in therapy to rebuild the relationship. Now Jon begged her for one more chance, but Sarah was done…until she thought about her two young children and wondered whether she could summon the energy to try once more.

If you are reading this article, chances are your marriage is

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Topics: Your Wellbeing, Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned

[Checklist] Forms Needed to File for Divorce in PA

Posted by Sharon Pastore, Main Line Family Law Center
March 21, 2016 at 3:22 PM


Spouses with no marital property to divide, alimony or immediate custody issues to resolve, can file what is called a simple divorce. The following information and series of forms to file applies to counties in PA, including Montgomery County.  Filing for divorce in Montgomery County tends to be simpler than filing elsewhere, and one does not need to be a county resident in order to file for divorce in this county.  

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Topics: divorce in PA, Healthy Legal Options

How to Be Your Best Self Through Divorce

Posted by Sharon Pastore
March 3, 2016 at 6:00 AM

Divorce can bring out the worst in anyone. It is a hugely stressful time, there is a lot at stake, and most people feel terribly vulnerable. All of this gives rise to a perfect storm of anger, resentment, and mistrust and can easily drag even the most caring and good-natured person to behave badly.

 

In a recent Preparing for Divorce support call, empowerment coach Adina Laver, and wellness educator, Dr. Christine E. Kiesinger, explored how to be your best self during divorce.  I loved listening to her story.

 

Over the past 18 months, Christine has been consciously navigating her path as she and her husband uncoupled. Three months in, she realized she needed to consider how she conducted herself and what version of herself she wanted showing up throughout this process, and that even the most aware person can find themselves behaving in shocking ways.  She wasn't happy with herself and began to shift.  

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3 Biggest Mistakes When Filing for Divorce in PA

Posted by Sharon Pastore, Main Line Family Law Center
February 3, 2016 at 12:54 PM

 

The Do-It-Yourself Divorce in PA

Everything these days is becoming more do-it-yourself - even divorce.  But how simple is it really to file your own paperwork? Let's take a look at how to file for divorce in PA.  Here are 3 biggest mistakes most people make when filing as a "pro se" in PA. This assumes that you have a simple divorce - no marital property to divide and no issues to work out around custody or other children's issues.

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Topics: divorce in PA, Healthy Legal Options

Why the Golden Rule Works to Your Advantage in Divorce

Posted by Ruth Feinblum, LCSW
January 12, 2016 at 6:30 AM

There are a lot of terms for having a low-conflict divorce - a good divorce, conscious uncoupling or a healthy divorce. People going through a divorce understand why a healthy divorce is better for children and finances. But, here's a question you probably haven't considered..Could a healthy divorce also be better for your former spouse? Why should you care? If you, as adults are going to work to let go of the anger during the divorce process, how is that helpful to your own emotional well-being and growth?

 

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Topics: Your Wellbeing, Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned

How to Beat the Divorced Holiday Blues

Posted by Dawn E. Warden
December 4, 2015 at 12:47 PM

As someone who has been through two divorces—the second one very much unwanted—I understand all too well the emotional wave brought on by the holiday season. One minute you're up and grateful, the next, you're down, lonely and full of anxiety. Your kid time has been hijacked by your ex, your friends are running off to a great vacation or hunkering down for family time amid fires, movies and popcorn and blankets. You feel like something—someone—is missing. Because well, he or she, is. 

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Answers to Top 4 Legal Questions about Moving Out and Separation in PA

Posted by Sharon Pastore, Main Line Family Law Center
November 19, 2015 at 11:38 AM

Living together after you’ve decided to divorce or separate is extremely difficult, regardless of how you got there. It’s no wonder this tense, uncomfortable living situation often pushes divorcing couples to make rash decisions about moving out before fully considering the consequences.

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Topics: Healthy Legal Options

How to Use PA Divorce Law to Mediate a Fair Divorce Settlement

Posted by Cris Pastore, Esq. Main Line Family Law Center
October 16, 2015 at 7:00 AM

As with all other aspects of their divorce, couples in mediation are empowered to decide together the fairest way to divide their estate, rather than having judges, attorneys and the divorce court decide for them. This is the essence of mediation.

 

When it comes to dividing marital property, I always inform couples at the start of their mediation, equitable distribution does not always mean 50/50. Equitable distribution represents what is adequate and realistic for each party, based on their budgeted financial needs, future financial plans, earning capacities and so on. Once we work together to analyze the respective finances and future needs of each, it becomes more clear to the couple how the estate should be most fairly divided on a percentage basis.  

 

Let's take a closer look at how we work together in mediation to divide property fairly:

 

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Topics: Healthy Legal Options