Fake it ’til you make it? In becoming friends with your ex, that is. It seems pretty backwards to think that one of the best ways to heal from a divorce is to become friends with your ex, especially if you end up battling it out in court over 2-4 years.
Everyone is exhausted and no one feels like playing nicely when all is said and done. From a psychological standpoint, those who can remain friends or begin anew – even if it is just being civil toward one other for starters, can go a long way toward the healing process.
I can tell you that that the mere decision to choose the divorce mediation route seems to have an immediate positive effect on couples, like they know they are doing something good for their relationship. In fact, it really is a parent’s duty to stay friends so you can co-parent more effectively.
Check out this article for some more thoughts on the topic: