3 Well-Intended "No-No's" for Divorcing Parents

Posted by Sandi Sherr, M.Ed
May 21, 2014 at 11:08 AM

This article is an excerpt from Preparing for Divorce, a free monthly support call, sponsored by Main Line Family Law Center, in partnership with Divorce Essentials.

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3 Well-Intended "No-No's" for Divorcing Parents
 
Many parents realize that constant fighting in front of children or bad mouthing the other parent can be emotionally damaging to a child.
But you might be surprised to learn that common notions about divorce-- thought to to help your child cope-- may end up having the opposite effect.
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Divorcing Parents: Proven Ways to Ease the Transition

Posted by Stephanie Newberg, M.Ed, MSW, LCSW
February 4, 2014 at 11:28 AM

If you are tired of trying to work cooperatively with your child's mother or father to make decisions, then co-parenting counseling and a parenting plan may be what you need.

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Divorce and the Holidays: Two Must-Have Gifts for Kids and You

Posted by Adina Laver, Divorce and Relationship Coach
November 26, 2013 at 11:23 AM

If navigating or managing your divorce was not stressful enough, now the holidays are approaching… Match the stress of your divorce with the guilt of “ruining” the holidays for your kids and the fact that you do not have the money to spend on big gifts, and you may as well pack it in! Right? WRONG!

Keep reading… there is hope for your happy holidays yet, and there are gifts you can give your kids and yourself that everyone will continue to enjoy all year long.

One of my (Jewish) kids’ favorite movies is Miracle on 34th Street. We watch the black and white version every year where an older gentleman convinces everyone that he truly is Santa Claus.  His own belief about his identity is so steadfast that others soon follow suit.

What is so intoxicating about this movie is how it invites us to truly believe…to suspend everything we think we know about reality, and to believe in something that we otherwise cannot rationalize as true. If you haven’t seen the movie and don’t know what I am talking about, go rent it, get it on Netflix, whatever. Watching it can be a fabulous new tradition at this time of year - regardless of your religion - and you will know what I am talking about.

If you are navigating divorce, you may be convinced that you are ruining their kids’ lives. If you cannot afford the usual holiday gifts, you may also be convinced that your kids will be miserable and hate you over the holidays. And even worse, if your ex (or ex-to-be) can afford gifts that you can’t, you might as well take your place as the lesser parent.

This is what you think you know, but it is not really true.

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The Anxiety of Preparing for Divorce While Pregnant

Posted by Danielle Adinolfi, MFT
July 2, 2013 at 11:38 AM

Making the decision to divorce is never easy, but having a baby on the way further complicates an already difficult process. All of the typical stressors of divorce are amplified bythe emotions that surround bringing a child into the world.

Below are a few critical points to think about if you are getting divorced while pregnant.

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6 Must-Tell Messages to Prepare Kids for Your Divorce

Posted by Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
June 6, 2013 at 2:28 PM

One of the most difficult conversations any parent will ever have is telling their children about their pending divorce. I know first-hand because many years ago I went through the experience. I fought and faced the overwhelming emotions. The deep gut-wrenching fear. The continuous anxiety. The incredible guilt. And the oppressive weight of shame.

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Five Keys to Help Children Thrive Through Divorce

Posted by Rosalind Sedacca
March 12, 2013 at 10:21 AM

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Simple Tips for Talking With Children about Divorce

Posted by Paul Kesselman
February 12, 2013 at 1:55 PM

Divorce is, without question, a very stressful experience for everyone involved, especially children.  On the scale of stressful life events, it comes in at #2, with the #1 stressful event being the death of a spouse. 

With this in mind, it is important to consider how does divorce affect children. One of the most important things to consider is the age of the child when discussing divorce, especially with young children.  This article offers insight into how to discuss divorce with children and some resources that may be helpful to parents who are going through the divorce process. 

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The Healthy Parenting Plan: Where to Begin?

Posted by Sandi Sherr
August 8, 2012 at 3:20 PM

The Healthy Parenting Plan:  Where to Begin?

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