Welcome to The Healthy Divorce Blog, your source for everything related to having a healthy divorce.

Divorce does not end with the signing of the papers. Reshaping your life and the aftermath of separating from one’s spouse can be a highly sensitive, and sometimes painful one. When you have spent time with someone building a life together, finding yourself on your own again and defining your new normal can feel unfamiliar and confusing. If you find yourself getting divorced and starting afresh, finding your personal identity again as a single person takes some time and effort  - but in the end, the result is completely justifiable and worth it.

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Topics: Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned

Finances are the leading cause of stress in a relationship, and disagreements over debt—accumulating it, managing it, and getting it paid off—can lead to divorce. According to Bloomberg, the divorce rate has doubled among couples 50 or older, while among millennials, 61% of married women leave financial decisions to their husbands, which can cause lack of transparency and additional conflict later if the marriage ends.

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Topics: Getting In Financial Shape

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Between 40% and 50% of marriages in the US end up in divorce, American Psychological Association. While a divorce will undoubtedly be stressful for the couple involved, it can be even more traumatic for the children who are forced to adjust, and without necessary coping skills. How a child reacts depends on many things including his age, the circumstances surrounding the divorce, and his own personality type.

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Topics: The Mindful Divorcing Parent

Divorces can be particularly tricky with all the intense emotions involved. For better or for worse, it is not wise to sink and stay at a level of negativity and high drama. Divorced parents should at least keep a civility towards each other because, at the very least, they still need to coordinate with one another well beyond the divorce, and for years to come .

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Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition in which the person drowns in self-love, seeing everyone else and anything else as unimportant. A narcissist lacks empathy towards others. He/she focuses on feelings of self-importance, self-admiration, and grandiosity, often crushing all chances of emotional connections, friendships, and relationships. Very few people can endure a marriage with a narcissistic person. These are marriages often shrouded with either selfishness, self-hate, shame, verbal and/or even physical abuse.

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Topics: Your Wellbeing

(despite the fact that the words "new normal" might make your skin crawl)
During the onset of my divorce I remember when my therapist said to me:

“You will need to adjust to this, because this is your new normal." I thought I was going to be physically ill. I despised that sentence; every word of it but particularly “NEW NORMAL”…

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Topics: Your Wellbeing, Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned

 

Financial management in marriage separation is not for the faint-hearted. In fact, going into a divorce can feel similar to heading into war: you must expect the unexpected. You put up your defenses and feel like you are headed for a huge battle with your spouse. Not to mention, you feel like you’re going to get hurt or scarred in some way. But it doesn't have to be that way.

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Topics: Getting In Financial Shape

 

There are many things that can sour a marriage. If you and your spouse have experienced infidelity, your communication has become negative, or you are no longer supportive of one another, it can make staying in the relationship feel like a struggle. If your partner has come to you and asked for a divorce, you may be wondering if there is anything you can do to save your marriage. The answer is yes!

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Topics: Your Wellbeing