Narcissist-Divorce

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Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition in which the person drowns in self-love, seeing everyone else and anything else as unimportant. A narcissist lacks empathy towards others. He/she focuses on feelings of self-importance, self-admiration, and grandiosity, often crushing all chances of emotional connections, friendships, and relationships. Very few people can endure a marriage with a narcissistic person. These are marriages often shrouded with either selfishness, self-hate, shame, verbal and/or even physical abuse.

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How I Adjusted to the 'New Normal' of Divorce

Posted by Shannon McGorry
November 14, 2018 at 10:33 AM

(despite the fact that the words "new normal" might make your skin crawl)
During the onset of my divorce I remember when my therapist said to me:

“You will need to adjust to this, because this is your new normal." I thought I was going to be physically ill. I despised that sentence; every word of it but particularly “NEW NORMAL”…

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Topics: Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned, Your Wellbeing

Why You Should Get Divorce Advice to Save Your Marriage

Posted by Rachel Pace
September 27, 2018 at 7:00 AM

 

There are many things that can sour a marriage. If you and your spouse have experienced infidelity, your communication has become negative, or you are no longer supportive of one another, it can make staying in the relationship feel like a struggle. If your partner has come to you and asked for a divorce, you may be wondering if there is anything you can do to save your marriage. The answer is yes!

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How Gifts from a Softer Side of Divorce Can Help You Recover

Posted by Pamela Elaine Nichols
December 26, 2017 at 9:54 AM

Divorce is an experience that is...well...just depressing. Divorce disempowers, holds couples hostage, steals, haunts, and overstays its welcome. How does one cope with divorce and life afterwards? One way is by accepting the gifts divorce's softer side offers.

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How to Keep your Heart Open through Divorce

Posted by Casey Semenza
March 31, 2017 at 10:48 AM

 

When going through divorce it’s very difficult to see the bigger picture of how life will play out afterwards.  It might seem that you can’t be fully open to any possibilities or happiness through this transition, but that’s not quite true.  You can find happiness during this process and learn how to not only love yourself but others as well.

 

 

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How Discernment Counseling Helps Couples on the Brink of Divorce

Posted by Linda Hershman
April 7, 2016 at 1:54 PM

Sarah* discovered her husband Jon's emotional affair with a coworker in typical digital age fashion: via a text message that popped up on his phone, which he had left open on his night stand. This was the second time in their 14 year marriage that Jon had strayed. He had a brief affair six years ago, shortly after the birth of their second child. The couple worked long and hard in therapy to rebuild the relationship. Now Jon begged her for one more chance, but Sarah was done…until she thought about her two young children and wondered whether she could summon the energy to try once more.

If you are reading this article, chances are your marriage is

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How to Be Your Best Self Through Divorce

Posted by Sharon Pastore
March 3, 2016 at 6:00 AM

Divorce can bring out the worst in anyone. It is a hugely stressful time, there is a lot at stake, and most people feel terribly vulnerable. All of this gives rise to a perfect storm of anger, resentment, and mistrust and can easily drag even the most caring and good-natured person to behave badly.

 

In a recent Preparing for Divorce support call, empowerment coach Adina Laver, and wellness educator, Dr. Christine E. Kiesinger, explored how to be your best self during divorce.  I loved listening to her story.

 

Over the past 18 months, Christine has been consciously navigating her path as she and her husband uncoupled. Three months in, she realized she needed to consider how she conducted herself and what version of herself she wanted showing up throughout this process, and that even the most aware person can find themselves behaving in shocking ways.  She wasn't happy with herself and began to shift.  

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Why the Golden Rule Works to Your Advantage in Divorce

Posted by Ruth Feinblum, LCSW
January 12, 2016 at 6:30 AM

There are a lot of terms for having a low-conflict divorce - a good divorce, conscious uncoupling or a healthy divorce. People going through a divorce understand why a healthy divorce is better for children and finances. But, here's a question you probably haven't considered..Could a healthy divorce also be better for your former spouse? Why should you care? If you, as adults are going to work to let go of the anger during the divorce process, how is that helpful to your own emotional well-being and growth?

 

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