My Reflections on the First Make Divorce Healthier Supposium

Posted by Sharon Pastore
November 17, 2016 at 3:17 PM

I’m still reeling from of our first Make Divorce Healthier Supposium (spelled correctly), a gathering of over 130 divorce professionals who, by showing up, committed to making divorce kinder, more mindful and more affordable.


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Topics: healthy divorce, Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned

Finding a Fresh Start After Divorce

Posted by Tara Eisenhard
October 21, 2016 at 11:42 AM

 I was miserable in my marriage. I cringed when my husband touched me. I dreaded the hours we shared in our home. I spent a lot of time sleeping, preferring to shut my eyes to the reality of my life.

 

I knew it wasn’t supposed be that way. I tried to alter my emotional state by focusing on material comforts and reminding myself how happy they should make me. I think we both did that. But even as the money flowed in, joy failed to follow. Each of us was stuck in a life we didn’t want, and we each resented the other for our situation.


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Topics: Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned

[Story] Why I Wouldn't Dare File for Divorce All By Myself

Posted by Francesca Riggione
September 12, 2016 at 2:09 PM

This summer I spent interning with Main Line Family Law Center, a firm that specializes in mediation and divorce without court services in the Philadephia region.  Yesterday, I dedicated part of my afternoon to go "undercover" - investigating the elusive Divorce Kit that the local courthouse in Montgomery County, PA offers to spouses who wish to file for divorce by themselves (or "pro se" is the fancy legal term.)

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Topics: do it yourself divorce, Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned

How to (Kindly) Move toward Divorce When a Spouse is Reluctant

Posted by Sharon Pastore, Main Line Family Law Center
June 10, 2016 at 7:00 AM

Divorce often arises from persistent disagreement and fundamental differences in perspective between spouses.  Usually one spouse arrives at the conclusion to divorce, strongly in favor while the other experiences some reluctance.  In many states, the divorce process itself can put additional stress on the situation. 

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Topics: Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned

How Discernment Counseling Helps Couples on the Brink of Divorce

Posted by Linda Hershman
April 7, 2016 at 1:54 PM

Sarah* discovered her husband Jon's emotional affair with a coworker in typical digital age fashion: via a text message that popped up on his phone, which he had left open on his night stand. This was the second time in their 14 year marriage that Jon had strayed. He had a brief affair six years ago, shortly after the birth of their second child. The couple worked long and hard in therapy to rebuild the relationship. Now Jon begged her for one more chance, but Sarah was done…until she thought about her two young children and wondered whether she could summon the energy to try once more.

If you are reading this article, chances are your marriage is

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Topics: Your Wellbeing, Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned

How to Be Your Best Self Through Divorce

Posted by Sharon Pastore
March 3, 2016 at 6:00 AM

Divorce can bring out the worst in anyone. It is a hugely stressful time, there is a lot at stake, and most people feel terribly vulnerable. All of this gives rise to a perfect storm of anger, resentment, and mistrust and can easily drag even the most caring and good-natured person to behave badly.

 

In a recent Preparing for Divorce support call, empowerment coach Adina Laver, and wellness educator, Dr. Christine E. Kiesinger, explored how to be your best self during divorce.  I loved listening to her story.

 

Over the past 18 months, Christine has been consciously navigating her path as she and her husband uncoupled. Three months in, she realized she needed to consider how she conducted herself and what version of herself she wanted showing up throughout this process, and that even the most aware person can find themselves behaving in shocking ways.  She wasn't happy with herself and began to shift.  

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Topics: Your Wellbeing, Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned

Why the Golden Rule Works to Your Advantage in Divorce

Posted by Ruth Feinblum, LCSW
January 12, 2016 at 6:30 AM

There are a lot of terms for having a low-conflict divorce - a good divorce, conscious uncoupling or a healthy divorce. People going through a divorce understand why a healthy divorce is better for children and finances. But, here's a question you probably haven't considered..Could a healthy divorce also be better for your former spouse? Why should you care? If you, as adults are going to work to let go of the anger during the divorce process, how is that helpful to your own emotional well-being and growth?

 

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Topics: Your Wellbeing, Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned

How to Beat the Divorced Holiday Blues

Posted by Dawn E. Warden
December 4, 2015 at 12:47 PM

As someone who has been through two divorces—the second one very much unwanted—I understand all too well the emotional wave brought on by the holiday season. One minute you're up and grateful, the next, you're down, lonely and full of anxiety. Your kid time has been hijacked by your ex, your friends are running off to a great vacation or hunkering down for family time amid fires, movies and popcorn and blankets. You feel like something—someone—is missing. Because well, he or she, is. 

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Topics: Fresh Starts and Lessons Learned